ahhh i don’t usually do posts about social justice or injustice, but my little cousin dropped by today and he just said something that kind of bothered me. let me just put my serious face on really quick.
So, I think most of my followers know about my cousins - mainly Diamond and Timmy. They’re my closest and favorite cousins and I talk about them all the time. They are funny and interesting and they have influenced a lot of the things I do. With me recently graduating high school and everything… I felt like I should make sure that I set a good example for the both of them. I want them to do their best because I don’t want them to ever regret anything and I’ve mentioned to them that if they ever have problems, they’re more than welcome to come to me.
Diamond’s asked me things about how to deal with her sexuality. She’s bisexual and has a girlfriend and her mom hasn’t been happy with that, so I’ve always been happy to talk to her over Twitter if she ever wanted someone to talk to. She’s very level-headed and open to a lot of things. She goes to a minority-majority school - here in Texas, that generally means “a lot of blacks and Hispanics” - but she has a diverse group of friends.
I think she’s growing up nicely. I mean, from the occasional depressed tweet, she’s doing fine. But Timmy… I don’t know sometimes.
He’s in the 8th grade, 13 years old, and I know that he still has room to grow, but I wish he would just grow up faster. He’s kind of spoiled, since he’s an only child, but his folks are strict, which kind of balances him out, but he has such a flawed outlook on things.
Recently, I found out who my roommates were from SCAD, and they both look like nice girls! I looked them up on Facebook, but haven’t had the chance to message them to say hello yet. Of course, my mom decided to be extra nosy (which means here just being a normal concerned parent) and wanted to know more about them and the first thing she exclaims is, “They’re both white!”
WHY IS THIS A BIG DEAL! SERIOUSLY! And then she’s like, “You might have to buy some lice removal shit for your hair, especially since you got that good hair.”
I was astounded to hear her say something like this. I thought she would have known better. I mean, she said it like it was a joke, but I didn’t think it was funny, especially when she kind went like, “I hope you guys get along.”
I hope we get along too, but I don’t feel like their skin color should be a factor on whether we get along or not and it really felt like that’s what my mom was implying.
Anyways - back to Timmy - he came over tonight and I guess he overheard my mom talking to his mom about what I’m doing for college and he hops into my room and says, “OH MY GOD YOU’RE ROOMING WITH WHITE PEOPLE.”
And I ask what’s wrong with that and he says, “White people are weird. They have weird lifestyles.”
I probably shouldn’t have been surprised that he said that - I mean, he’s 13, he’ll grow out of that kind of mentality, right? But I just can’t stand that kind of discrimination. As far as I’m concerned, EVERYONE has different lifestyles, regardless of what your skin color is. Hell, MY lifestyle could be considered weird. Waking up to sleep, eating once a day, reading webcomics about grey skinned aliens is pretty weird to me.
And I tried to explain to him that he shouldn’t go through his life thinking that! That stereotyping like that is what’s going to keep him from growing up. You’re going to meet a lot of different people in your life that come from different places and have different backgrounds, and you shouldn’t judge them for looks. I mean, everyone says you shouldn’t judge a book by it’s cover, but people do it anyway.
Which is really sad.
Something I’ve prided myself in is having a diverse group of friends. Through middle school and high school, I always wanted to surround myself with people of all sorts of colors. I loved that I had Asian, white, black, and Hispanic friends, because I feel that there’s a lot to learn in life and if your world is just one color, then what’s the point?
That’s all I have to say on the matter. This was more of a rant about “WHY ARE YOU THINKING LIKE THIS” than telling people that they should do this and that and blah blah blah.
I just wish the world was a happier place and that everyone could love each other, regardless of sex, gender, race, or background.
My hopes are too high for that, but a girl can dream, I guess.